Connection coaching · Ana Vidmar Laharnar
Reconnect with yourself, so you can truly connect with the people you love.
For capable, caring people who look like they have it all together — yet keep meeting the same pain in love, in dating, or at home with their children. We go to the root of the patterns you inherited, so change finally sticks.
Does this sound familiar?
You’ve become an expert at functioning. What’s missing is aliveness.
“I try so hard, but it’s never enough.”
“Why do I keep ending up with the same kind of partner?”
“We love each other, but we keep having the same fight.”
“I don’t know why I keep shouting at my kids.”
“Even when I’m with my family, I’m thinking about the next thing I need to do.”
“How can I be there for the people I love without losing myself?”
You are not broken, and you are not doing it wrong. You are running a pattern you learned long ago — one that once kept you safe and is now quietly costing you closeness.
The root, not the surface
It’s not a logic problem. It’s a pattern.
You can know something logically — that you want to be kinder to your kids, that you deserve good things — and still act against it. That’s because somewhere along the way you picked up a belief that is quietly running the show underneath.
Most people have spent years talking about the problem. In my work we go and find the root — the specific belief, where it was formed — and replace it with something that actually serves you. So it doesn’t keep resurfacing in new forms.
— Ana
Two doors, one root
Where are you right now?
The pattern that keeps you lonely in dating is often the same one that later makes you reactive with your teenager. Same person, different season of life. You don’t need to fit a category — only to be willing to do your part.
Single and searching, or together but disconnected
You keep attracting the wrong partner, or you can’t seem to find one at all. Or you’re in a relationship that feels more like distance than closeness — the same conflict, on repeat. The pattern usually started long before this person.
Relationship coaching
A parent who loves deeply but keeps losing it
You promised yourself you’d do it differently — and yet the shouting, the guilt, the teenager behind a closed door. Whatever is good for you as a parent is good for your child. It starts with you, in the kindest possible way.
Coaching for parentsScience and soul
Deep insight into the root — and practical steps to live differently.
Root-cause change
Rapid Transformational Coaching and hypnosis-informed work take us straight to where a pattern was formed. Many clients find more clarity in one or two sessions than in months of talking.
Body & nervous system
Twelve years of somatic practice. Change you can feel in your body — calmer reactions, softer edges, more room to breathe — not only understand in your head.
Horse wisdom
Thirty years with horses taught me what presence, trust and boundaries really look like. That wisdom lives in every session — and in person in Slovenia, with the horses themselves.
Grounded in behavioural science, family-systems understanding and 15 years of work with children, teens and their families.
What changes
Not a different life. Feeling alive inside the one you have.
- From overwhelmto presence
- From guiltto repair
- From reactivityto connection
- From old patternsto new possibilities
- From survivingto truly living
How we start
One simple path. No pressure.
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Take the Connection Compass
A free quiz that shows how you connect — and where you tend to lose yourself — in love, family and friendship.
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Book a free discovery call
We talk about where you are, what might be underneath, and whether we’re the right fit. Honest and warm, never salesy.
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Your 1:1 journey
A single Deep-Dive Session, or the three-month WISE Premium programme for deep-rooted change — with support between sessions.
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In their words
“I feel brand new.”
I honestly didn't expect much in one session — I don't open up to people, I really don't. Thank you for making it a comfortable space. It's literally been pulled out of my head. I didn't think I'd feel this much better after just one session.
The rapid transformation really worked! I genuinely feel brand new after it, and the shift in my thoughts, feelings and behaviour is incredible. When I think of the word 'burden' now, it just doesn't resonate the way it used to.
A feeling of lightness, and a bit more patience. It was so on point — stopping and pausing, and asking if it's coming from self-love or the need for external validation.
I am amazed at how much freer I feel in my body today.
Hi, I’m Ana
I know this pattern from the inside.
As a child I was the one who took care of everyone else. I read the room, smoothed things over, and put everyone’s comfort before my own — and I carried that deal straight into my marriage, into motherhood at 24, and into years of burning out as a single mum trying to hold it all together.
I did the therapy, the coaching, the courses. What finally changed things was this: you cannot out-effort a survival pattern. Awareness, courage and the right support can turn it into connection instead of passing it down. That is what I get to help you do now.
Read my storyFree · a few minutes
Ana’s Connection Compass
Four directions, eight archetypes, one honest mirror. Discover how you love, how you protect yourself under stress — and what your next step could be.
